The emerald green monster consumes my mind:
She is so beautiful, does she even have to try? I can’t even put my mascara on these days without smudging some under the bottom of my eyelashes, trying to erase it and cover it up 5 times before running out the door-already late for work. She is so thin-the “perfect size”. Did she “really” even have kids? I can’t even find the time to workout let alone “stay in shape”. She has it all together. Her cooking is amazing, I can’t even make suddenly salad correctly-all I’m supposed to do is read the directions on the box and yet somehow each time it doesn’t fair just right. Her family worships the ground she walks on. Perfect wife. Perfect Mom. I can’t get my husband to pick up his socks and my girls to pick up their toys. She gets to stay home, take care of her family, and gets all the time in the world with them. I work while dreaming of the days I once was blessed with the same. She is a strong Christian woman. She is involved in Church in so many ways. I am not even able to serve in the way I wish I was able to because my schedule does not allow it. Sometimes my bible study time for the day is non existent and all I can do is talk to God throughout the day. She gets everything she wants. She has the “perfect life”.
I’m ashamed to admit some of these thoughts even enter my mind. If your brutally honest with yourself I’m sure you’ve had the same, if not similar thoughts enter yours as well. The comparison game is one all women are familiar with in one way or another. From the very beginning of time we have wanted, wanted, wanted. Satan tempted Eve and she succumbed. He explained to her, if she ate the apple, she would not “die” as God said, but her eyes would be open. She would be knowledgeable-obtain wisdom-she would be “like God”.
“Then the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food and pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise she took its fruit and ate.”-Genesis 3:4-6 (NKJV)
When we compare ourselves to others or covet what they have, we are not only breaking one of the 10 Commandments “Thou Shalt not Covet….” (Exodus 20:17) but we are diminishing God’s work. He made us-you and me-EXACTLY the way he wanted us. What we see as our flaws and imperfections, God see’s as his wonderful handiwork. God never makes mistakes. When we compare our lifestyles, bodies, husbands and children to those around us we are also depreciating God’s blessings. When we contrast our lives with others we are telling God what he has given us is not enough. We are being ungrateful.
When we change our attitudes and intentionally take our negative thoughts captive-our hearts change as well. A grateful heart is a thankful heart. Instead of being envious of what those around us have or what we don’t have, we should be turning our eyes to Christ and praising him for everything that “he has” given us.
“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change”. -James 1:17 (ESV)
Whatever it is big or small God has blessed us in many ways. Each one of us differently. He always knows whats best for us and what we “need”. Do not ever let the enemy encourage you to feel less then or imperfect because we are all individuals, God breathed and daughters of the King.
Please guard our hearts and our minds. Help us to be thankful for everything you have given us, big and small. Lord please do not let jealousy take up a stronghold within us but a spirit of love, kindness, compassion and thankfulness for those around us. Help us to be content with what we have and change our attitudes to one of praise. Help us to become selfless and more concerned not with what those around us have but what those around us may need. Help us to be available to those around us and less concerned with our covetous thoughts. Help us to grow and mature in you. In Jesus name we pray…