Death. Until recently I never thought too much about it. I knew it is inevitable. Something that happens to everyone at there given time. I’ve always been aware we never know how much time we have. Trying to make the most of the time I have with my loved ones especially my husband and my girls each day, with there being so little time together as it is, conflicting schedules and all. In the back of my mind I guess I just pictured everyone living to be close to 100 and dying of old age, with all the family standing around their bedside and the privilege of exchanging last goodbyes and I love you’s. We never picture those we love having less time than ourselves. Dying unexpectedly.
This year has been one of my least favorites. So far we’ve been to four funerals-3 in the last 2 months. Aunt J was by far the most difficult. She was only 46 years old. She was healthy and full of life. She was always blunt and honest. She took care of those she loved with her whole heart. She was always right there to lend an ear, opinion, or a helping hand. When things were rough we could always count on her to be there. Until she wasn’t. Unfortunately God had other plans. She was perfectly healthy and had been flying and traveling for long periods of time during some recent business trips. After getting home the day before she began having some upper back pain. Aunt J decided she needed to be taken into the ER. While waiting in the waiting room, she began to have seizure like systems and died in Uncle S’s arms. The doctors preceded to take her back and do everything they could but it was too late. She had already gone “home”. The final diagnosis. A blood clot. Unexpected. No final goodbyes. Just like that.
The truth of the matter is we truly have no idea when our time is up. Life is such a precious precious gift. I know often times from experience it’s easy to take life for granted. To expect days, months and years. The truth of the matter is we have no idea if we are allotted hours, minutes or seconds. We only get one life. Life is to short to hold grudges. We need to mend broken relationships. Life is to short to be angry. We need to love as Jesus loves. To help the lonely know they are not alone. To love those who feel unloved. To remind those who feel unworthy, invaluable and worthless that they are children of God. His masterpieces. Perfectly created the way he intended. To remember the most important reason why we are on this earth. For life is not about the created but the creator. Long after we are gone and forgotten by those we’ve left behind the name of Jesus will reign forever.
When your on the phone and your kids keep asking you questions wanting attention and talking on and on. Put the phone down. Look at them. See them. Cherish them. Give them all the attention they need and more. When the family member who can talk for hours calls don’t send it to voicemail. Listen to them. Be an ear. Love on them because one day they may not be around to call and you’ll miss those long conversations. Love your spouse and never stay angry with them. You never know when that kiss will be your last one. Say I love you too often because one day it may be a faint whisper of a memory.
We shouldn’t live life in fear or worry but we should never take a moment or anyone for granted. No matter what has happened in our lives whether painful or beyond happiness we should cherish the blessing and the people in our lives at all times.
Just a few reminders as you go on thru your Thursday…maybe this weekend take some extra time to cherish those you love :).
The song Why God by Austin French has been such an encouragement to me. I love how he’s singing about the fact that it is ok to question God. As a mom, I love it when my kids come to me with questions and just as Austin says, “Especially the hard ones”. God doesn’t always answer all our whys but he does promise us he will never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5) and he works all things together for good for those who love him (Romans 8:28).