Mom and dad fighting again. Voices competing raising higher and higher-like a Janga tower, peaking at the top and all the bricks just waiting to fall. Dad’s temper a fiery dragon devouring everyone and everything in his path. Mom sobbing on the floor, powerless to put it out. There in the corner their son peaking behind the curtains. Scared. Confused. Year after year he’d hear it all. See it all. He vowed alcohol would never touch his lips. He would never be like his father.
When high school comes around the pressures of home life continue to bombard him. The wrong types of friends. The wrong types of parties. The one type of drink he swore he would never taste. The one road he said he would never go down.
She grew up in a Christian home. On the outside everything looked picture perfect. Her dad was who she defined as a Godly husband and her mom completed him in everyway. They were the power couple everyone wanted to be-what she wanted to have in a family of her own one day. Until they weren’t. One day she learned her mom was far from faithful. Her mother had claimed her father was not who he appeared to be but God, had brought another man, who would treat her the way she deserved, into her life. From that moment on she harbored ill feelings toward her mother. The woman who claimed to love God, the woman who advised her to do the right thing time and again-a liar, a fraud. She swore she would never treat a man in that way-she was better than that.
He flashes a smile in her direction and a compliment rolls of his tongue. He asks for her number and flatteringly she states she is married. The conversation continues as he hands her his phone and her hands shake as she enters in the numbers before heading home to her husband. Weeks go by and the conversation continues. Until it is no longer just a conversation their sharing. She realizes she too, has now become the very woman she despised.
A wise woman reminded me recently of the consequential effects of compromise.
Whether they be Christian beliefs or boundaries you have set for yourself out of your own set of morals, compromising-even once, can easily lead down a path of destruction.
The first time you give in, it may not seem so bad. You might wonder why you had been against it or disagreed with it in the first place. It may even seem rewarding.
Dipping your toes in the water isn’t too bad…until you jump in.
Then the chill of the temperature overtakes you. Paralyzes you and you can’t breath.
A little compromise here and there and before you know it, you have become the person you swore you would never become. Done the very thing you said you would never do.
James 4:17 (ESV) says “So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin”.
When we choose to give in, to compromise, we know we aren’t doing the right thing.
“Like a muddied spring or a polluted fountain is a righteous man who gives way before the wicked”. Proverbs 25:26 (ESV).
Think about it.
When you have a cup of crystal clear water and you add just the tiniest bit of dirt, it’s now become comprised. Murky. You aren’t going to want to drink it because…well, who wants to drink dirty water?
When we compromise our beliefs for fleshly desires, we give ourselves up to sin, allowing Satan to grab a foothold. We then put distance between ourselves and God.
Lucky for us “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”. Romans 3:23.
Despite our failures, despite our mistakes, despite our sin-he still loves us.
Just as God used David after all his selfishness, infidelity, and murder- he can still use us.
We just need to continue to ask God for forgiveness when we do compromise and pray for the courage and strength only he can give us to resist.
Dear Heavenly Father,
Thank you for loving us no matter what. Thank you for never giving up on us, even when we give up on ourselves. Father please help us to keep our eyes focused on you daily. Today it can be so easy to compromise, our beliefs, our morals, our identities. Lord please continue to give us the strength to not waiver but to walk on solid ground. We love you Jesus.
In your name, Amen.